Well we've had a couple of weekends of respite and were just starting to feel better when... both of the boys got sick. They have a viral infection in their mouths. This includes fever and mouth sores. Obviously they are miserable and can't eat. Because they are miserable we are miserable.
Also the kids mother accused us of scalding the baby... she has dry skin around her wrists and ankles, and Mom thought those spots looked like burned skin that is healing. Don't ask. I took the baby to the ER for 4 hours so a dr. could confirm that she had, in fact, dry skin. The investigation should be concluded soon.
Lastly we are attending a reunification meeting next Friday regarding returning the kids to their Mom. Just when things were getting easier, we find out they are leaving.
Although we are heart broken at the thought of these three leaving, we will definitely not be taking three kids at one time again.
This is the most difficult thing I've done in my life. I hope that the next placement "sticks" and we can finally foster-to-adopt.
On a brighter note, I graduated last Saturday! It was awesome. Now I just need to find a teaching job.....
Happy Birthday tomorrow to my husband, my soul mate and the love of my life.
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Head just about water
Whew! It's been a tough two months. But still we are blessed :)
Taking care of the kids during the day and working at night has taken it's toll on Greg and we are now looking at daycare centers. We are heart broken about this but he is exhausted and we have to take care of ourselves so that we can take care of the kids. The one center we really liked and had peace about does not have openings for all three kids. I am praying those openings will happen but in the meanwhile will keep looking.
I was thinking about all those foster classes we had to take... none of them warn you about how you will feel at 3 AM when the baby won't stop crying.... or how you will have no social life after the kids arrive... or how your heart will hurt when you see how angry and damaged a three year old can be.
The oldest had several violent issues this week. First I caught him choking his brother, both hands around the neck. Next he intentionally knocked the baby over, full force with both hands. I also caught him squeezing the baby's wrist as hard as he could. No telling what we didn't see. Both boys are in play therapy so hopefully we can continue to work on this.
WIC SUCKS. What a nightmare. I will NOT use it again, unless I need formula. It isn't worth it. I went May 1st to get formula. I got through the line when I found out I had no wic available. Keep in mind I called in the middle of April to find out if I needed to come in, etc. Oh no, everything was fine - not. So I went Thursday to the WIC office and got everything taken care of. After this I went back to Kroger, where everything went through - except the formula. They had put the wrong kind on my account. So I went straight back, got it fixed, then went back to Kroger and picked up the formula. So frustrating.
To change the tone (less complaining), the baby is doing great. While she is a little delayed and receives physical therapy, she has improved so much since we got her. She can now sit up on her own and holds her own bottle. She also has two front teeth coming in. It's amazing how much you can love a child who is not yours.
The middle boy is doing well also. He tends to mimic his older brother but is otherwise a pretty happy-go-lucky kid. He tries to talk but much of it is unintelligible. We are able to make out things like "more", "Da(d)" and "Momma". He's got an incredible grin that makes you forget why you're mad at him.
The oldest is also fun... he loves to sing but makes up his own variations of everything. He even rewrote the ABC song :) He is attending MDO at our church and does really well there and in his Sunday school and Wednesday night classes.
We dropped the kids off for respite tonight. I hated to leave them - but we desperately need a break. I am looking forward to picking them up again tomorrow evening but may eat those words later :)
I am graduating next Saturday! Still looking for a job as well but that has been difficult with the kids around. I am still holding on to the fact that God knows exactly where I'm going to end up.
We're hanging in here... I'll try to update again soon.
Taking care of the kids during the day and working at night has taken it's toll on Greg and we are now looking at daycare centers. We are heart broken about this but he is exhausted and we have to take care of ourselves so that we can take care of the kids. The one center we really liked and had peace about does not have openings for all three kids. I am praying those openings will happen but in the meanwhile will keep looking.
I was thinking about all those foster classes we had to take... none of them warn you about how you will feel at 3 AM when the baby won't stop crying.... or how you will have no social life after the kids arrive... or how your heart will hurt when you see how angry and damaged a three year old can be.
The oldest had several violent issues this week. First I caught him choking his brother, both hands around the neck. Next he intentionally knocked the baby over, full force with both hands. I also caught him squeezing the baby's wrist as hard as he could. No telling what we didn't see. Both boys are in play therapy so hopefully we can continue to work on this.
WIC SUCKS. What a nightmare. I will NOT use it again, unless I need formula. It isn't worth it. I went May 1st to get formula. I got through the line when I found out I had no wic available. Keep in mind I called in the middle of April to find out if I needed to come in, etc. Oh no, everything was fine - not. So I went Thursday to the WIC office and got everything taken care of. After this I went back to Kroger, where everything went through - except the formula. They had put the wrong kind on my account. So I went straight back, got it fixed, then went back to Kroger and picked up the formula. So frustrating.
To change the tone (less complaining), the baby is doing great. While she is a little delayed and receives physical therapy, she has improved so much since we got her. She can now sit up on her own and holds her own bottle. She also has two front teeth coming in. It's amazing how much you can love a child who is not yours.
The middle boy is doing well also. He tends to mimic his older brother but is otherwise a pretty happy-go-lucky kid. He tries to talk but much of it is unintelligible. We are able to make out things like "more", "Da(d)" and "Momma". He's got an incredible grin that makes you forget why you're mad at him.
The oldest is also fun... he loves to sing but makes up his own variations of everything. He even rewrote the ABC song :) He is attending MDO at our church and does really well there and in his Sunday school and Wednesday night classes.
We dropped the kids off for respite tonight. I hated to leave them - but we desperately need a break. I am looking forward to picking them up again tomorrow evening but may eat those words later :)
I am graduating next Saturday! Still looking for a job as well but that has been difficult with the kids around. I am still holding on to the fact that God knows exactly where I'm going to end up.
We're hanging in here... I'll try to update again soon.
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